How an Introvert Makes a Phone Call

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Humanity has been teleconversing for the last century and a half. What, pray tell, is the big deal about the humble phone call? It's a simple 2-step process:

  • Dial Number
  • Talk

Quite easy, is it not? Which is why a lot of direct sales trainers will push their downline to just "hop on a phone call!"

Well, this may be simple for those who are extroverts. However, if you are an introvert, this process becomes much more complex.

And loathsome. Very Loathsome, as this article explains.  

But in a nutshell, according to Psychology Today, phone calls can be very disruptive for introverts. 

What could be an expedient 2-step process, for an introvert, becomes a 21-step monstrosity of a nightmare.

 This is how an introvert makes a phone call...

1. Think about what he or she is going to say

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Do I want to say "hello" or "hi"?

Just picking up the phone and dialing would lead to disaster! 

To avoid awkward silences and stuttering, the introvert must spend time, much more time than the actual length of the envisioned phone call, to decide what he or she is going to say.

This includes writing a script or talking points on paper.

2. Consider what the other person may say and how she’d respond in return

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Inevitably, thinking about what he or she will say leads to pondering just how the other person may respond, and what they might say to what was painstakingly scripted before hand. 

This of course leads to simulating in the mind just how to respond to how the other person could respond, and so on and so forth.

3. Get a drink of water

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All of this mental exertion results in the need for refreshment. And she certainly wants to be sure she has a clear voice. 

A drink of water is a must!

4. Go to the bathroom

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Of course, upon getting a drink, the introvert finds they are much thirstier than they originally realized, and so down several glasses before returning to their desk...

Only to realize they now need to take a bathroom break.

5. Reply to an email

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Arriving back at their desk, the introvert now discovers they have an extremely, mildly, not-so-much-but-kind-of, urgent email that must be responded to!

6. Rehearse what she will say if she gets voicemail

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The quick brown fox jumped over the lazy dog...

Nothing strikes more terror in an introvert’s heart than having to leave a message on someone’s voicemail, for her mistakes and fumbles to be digitally recorded for what possibly could be forever. 

Of course, at the same time, nothing brings greater relief than not having to talk to a real person.

Of course, at the same time, nothing brings greater relief than not having to talk to a real person. #introvertbusiness

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7. Read a book to the kids

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Twenty minutes later...

The children want to read a book. The introvert acquiesces.

After all, what kind of parent would they be if they turned down this request?

8. Make sure everything is quiet

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Children satisfied, it is now time to make this phone call! 

But all must be quiet, from running appliances, TV, music, or the construction project next door.

9. Make arrangements to ensure that everyone will actually stay quiet

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Then the dreadful realization hits that the children could start up their ruckus after the phone call has begun. 

This. Can. NOT. Happen!

Shewing them into the great outdoors, spontaneous nap-time, or good old-fashioned duct tape are all viable options.

10. Get a notepad for jotting down notes

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"Wait, what was it I had decided to say after spending all that time thinking about it?" 

The introvert realizes that it would be smart to get a notepad to jot down some notes.

This will also ensure that nothing the introvert wants to say during the phone call will be forgotten.

11. Get a snack

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"Well, done!" the introvert thinks to herself upon completion of the notes. 

"I deserve a reward, and I need a snack! Once more to the kitchen we go!"

12. Get another drink of water

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Without fail, eating a snack will work up a thirst. More water is in order!

13. Go to the bathroom again

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Nature will probably call once the phone call begins so better make a preemptive strike!

14. Find a place to call alone without distractions

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All being quiet is not enough. Our introvert must now find a locale free of all visual and olfactory distractions.

"Ah, this blank wall will do nicely!"

All being quiet is not enough. Our introvert must now find a locale free of all visual and olfactory distractions. "Ah, this blank wall will do nicely!"

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15. Check Facebook

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It then occurs to the introvert that it has been many seconds since they last checked Facebook. 

Better check it just to make sure nothing urgent has come up rendering a phone call extraneous!

"Nope, nothing has come up. That's...good...OH! A cat video! This waits for no one!"

16. Take deep breaths

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*Deep breath*

"This is it!"

*Deep breath*

"Time to make a phone call!"

*Deep breath*

17. Reread message or listen again to the voicemail from the other person making sure she really did ask that she give her a call

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I can't think of a more horrifying situation...

With a surge of anxious hope, the introvert realizes they should reread the email or listen to the voicemail again from the other person just to make absolutely certain they really are supposed to call them.

No need to make an unnecessary phone call! That would be the worst.

18. Add her contact info into your iphone

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Yup, still supposed to call...

But it is here that our introvert realizes they have yet to add this person to their contacts.

"Better do that now so I know it's them when they call in the future..."

19. Pray

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Because it's always good to have God on your side.

20. Write a blog post about how an introvert makes phone calls

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The introvert then comes to understand just how difficult it is for her to make a phone call...

And so decides to write a blog post detailing this difficult and delicate process.

No, this is not a true story. What are you talking about?

*nervous cough*

21. Realize with relief that she is out of time and puts it on her to-do list for tomorrow

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With a great sense of satisfaction, a tremendous weight lifts off of the introvert as she realizes she no longer has any time to make a phone call that day anyway, and she can put it off until tomorrow.

It's been a good day.

Did you See Yourself In This Post?

Or, did you recognize someone on your team in this post? 

Give them/you some slack!

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, despite what our culture may communicate. 

In fact, introverts may even be BETTER than extroverts in some areas when it comes to growing an online business.

The beautiful reality is that the BEST way to grow a network marketing or direct sales business today is to leverage the incredible power of the internet.

You don't have to use the phone to build your business if you don't want to!

If you're tired of feeling like you're trying to be someone you're not while building your business...

And you're looking for a proven, introvert-friendly strategy to grow your direct sales business online...

Then grab my free guide on how I, an introverted homeschooling mom, was able to build a team of over 7,000 reps...

All without leaving home, or picking up the phone. 

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This will be especially beneficial if you never want to do another vendor show or home party ever again!

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Hi, I'm Paula Ramm

I’m a homeschooling mom of 7, living in the sunny state of Florida. I’ve been in direct sales for over 7 years and managed to build a multi-million dollar revenue-generating team of over 6,000 amazing consultants.

I love to help other ladies build their own thriving businesses from home, so they can spend more time with their families and be able to focus on the truly important things in life.

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